Last week, I wrote about some dos and don’ts for attending work-related holiday parties.

It seems, from the personal responses I got, that attending these parties can be quite a chore for some people.

If that description sounds familiar, how can you make them easier on yourself, as well as for the many others that are attending?

Play the role of HOST.

I know you aren’t actually hosting the party, but think about what the host’s role entails ….

It is to be gracious, meet and greet people, and make sure others are having fun.

Remember, it’s NOT all about you!!

Here are some pointers using the acronym HOST that can help you make the most of holiday office parties:

H -- Greet people by saying, “Hi” (or “Hello”) my name is _________ and you are?” It’s best to approach small groups and individuals. Typically, the person standing alone is an introvert, and would welcome being rescued.

O – Have Open body language – in other words, look inviting. There’s no need to cross your arms or stare at the floor. Look at people, and look approachable.

S – Smile. This really goes along with open body language. A smile is welcoming. A smile is friendly. A smile is inviting. People may actually be interested in you if you smile. And, while we are on the S, think of small talk. That’s the chit-chat that opens doors. Find out more about people by being open yourself. Avoid talking business – remember, it’s a party!

T – Talk to everyone. Don’t monopolize one or two people for the evening. Introduce the person (or people) you know to someone else.

The role of HOST isn’t that hard – you may surprise yourself in that you actually enjoy the party and have helped others to have a good time, too!Cixiz.Biz | Healty.Info

Holiday time is here, and party invites are flowing.

Time for fun … and time for faux pas a plenty!

Here is my list of 9 holiday party mistakes to avoid making …

1. Not RSPVing when asked. Always respond to invitations – whether or not you can attend the event. This includes citing any guests who will be coming with you, too.
2. Making wardrobe mistakes. Always plan your wardrobe carefully, and ensure it’s appropriate attire for the event. For women, this means remembering that a party isn’t the time to show off cleavage. For men, the reminder is that no one needs to see your chest hair or 6-pack. For both genders, remember to limit how much skin you show in general.
3. Not knowing the exact location. Find out the exact location of the party before you leave, so you arrive on time. No last-minute scrambling to get directions or set up your GPS. “Fashionably late” isn’t fashionable.
4. Drinking too much alcohol. Limit your alcohol intake. Alcohol consumption is not a license for poor behavior. I don’t care if there IS an open bar, that’s not an excuse for drinking more than you should.
5. Talking business. Always keep conversations to small talk and not major business-related topics. There’s a time and place for everything.
6. Sticking with one or two people the whole time. Mix and mingle at all work and business parties. Don’t spend too much time with any one person. Parties are for socializing and meeting new people.
7. Pigging out at the buffet. Remember, it’s NOT about the food. So, when you eat at these holiday affairs, avoid overdoing it. And, watch your table manners!
8. Overstaying your welcome. You certainly don’t have to be the last person to leave. But worse yet, never put yourself in a position where you’re asked to leave.
9. Forgetting to send a thank-you note. Always send a thank-you note to the host or hosts. You will be remembered for the right reasons.

Now, the fun part is up to you!

The Thanksgiving holiday is over – but now we have Chanukah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, and New Year’s on the horizon.

Typically, that means parties (professional and personal) – which, in turn, means more opportunities for creating conversations.

For some of us, it is an easy task -- we like small talk, meeting new people and socializing in general. But, for others it is a chore.

It doesn’t have to be …

What are some techniques to make mingling and conversation easy and enjoyable for all parties concerned?

Here’s my list of seven strategies:

1. Whenever possible, do your “homework.” Know who is coming, and a little bit about the people. What are their interests? Where do they work? What do they do in their free time?

2. Ask questions – not to be intrusive, but to find areas of mutual interest. Be interested in what they have to say.

3. Share something about yourself – not to brag, but again, something that the others may find interesting.

4. Be comfortable with silence. You don’t need to rush the conversation.

5. Be up to date with current events and best-selling books – they make great conversation starters.

6. Look for ways to help others. That may mean introducing them to other people at the event.

7. Know when to exit the conversation. Avoid monopolizing one person for the whole event.

If you follow these seven guidelines, you not only will have great conversations and build relationships, but, perhaps more importantly, a great time!